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When the other person does not fight back…

By Rajesh Setty on Tue 03 Jul 2007, 11:38 PM - 4 Comments

Consider this – You start a fight and the other person retreats. This can happen in a competitive situation as in you attack your competitor on his core business or in a simple situation where you attack someone on his or her blog. When the other person retreats, it is easy to declare a win for yourself. I talked to a dozen very smart friends on this topic recently. Here are a few other reasons where the person might retreat.

1. The retreat is temporary.  The person may attack you back but at a time of his or her choosing.

2. The other person thought that it is not worth his time or her time to fight you

3. The other person thought that it costs more to fight you than to ignore you

4. The other person has other important priorities to give this fight any further attention.

5. The other person feels that your attack has no merit. By engaging in a fight, he or she has to spend a ton of time explaining things in detail. So, ignore again.

6. The other person doesn’t know who you are. Cannot make a determination whether to fight or not. Time passes by and he or she forgets about this.

7. The other person doesn’t want to engage with you in any way – fighting or otherwise.

8. You may have a lot of time to engage in the fight. The other person may not.

9. The other person thanks you for bringing something to his attention and will handle the situation on his or her end.

10. The other person is fighting with you by NOT fighting with you :)

Something to think about.

 

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Anonymous  on July 4th, 2007

I think there’s actually number 11, which is most dangerous, when you fight openly to fairly accomplish a goal and they fight you back “underground guerilla style”, backstabbing etc., which can go fairly unrecognized for a long time.

Anonymous  on July 4th, 2007

Good one Viktor. Thanks for sharing…
Best,
Raj

Anonymous  on July 4th, 2007

#10 reminds me of Bruce Lee’s “Enter the Dragon” — there is a scene early in the movie where Bruce is being harassed by another character who wants to fight him. When asked his “style”, Bruce replies: “I call it the art of fighting without fighting” and then proceeds to demonstrate it through a serious of stalling manuevers and misdirections.

Anonymous  on July 4th, 2007

I thought this was an excellent list.
I posted my reaction here: Quizzes and the Contradiction of Conscience.
(I’m somewhat new at blogging, and haven’t figured out how to make trackbacks work with Blogger.)

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