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How much does it cost to ignore you?

By Rajesh Setty on Thu 24 Apr 2008, 6:15 AM - 3 Comments

You ask for something and you get rejected. Sounds familiar?

If you are in the “self help” world, you just “motivate yourself” and “persist” and go and ask some more people. If you get rejected again, you “don’t give up” and you “walk the extra mile”.

Before you do all that, please think what is the cost for the other person to TOTALLY ignore you. If it is bordering zero, may be you have to first work on your identity and then go back to making requests.

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Balaji on April 24th, 2008

A very interesting point well said. The question now is how to create the necessary identity.

Dave Taylor on April 25th, 2008

Hmmm…. I think it would be useful to differentiate between ignoring *you* and ignoring *your idea or proposal*. This is a classic parenting challenge: judge and evaluate the action or idea of your child, but don’t judge the child.

Rajesh Setty on April 25th, 2008

Hi Dave,

Quick clarification. In the case of a child, there is a strong chance that the “child” won’t be ignored just because, well, it’s your child.

I am looking at scenarios where people make a request to someone without building their identity first. For example, imagine you submit a topic about social marketing to a conference. The same topic is also suggested by another person without the kind of accomplishments that you have. Chances are pretty high that the other person’s request will be ignored.

Nothing personal or moral about this – it’s just the way marketplace looks at things.

My $.02 of course.

Best,
Raj

PS: Look forward to catching up with you soon.